I learned 2 days ago that the intellectuals
in Senegal typically have one wife because they understand the consequences of
polygamy. From my observation, the ones who attend French schools usually have one wife and the ones who attend Arabic
schools are polygamous. Some of the common problems faced in polygamous
relationships are that the women may not get along which creates further
division amongst the children. Sometimes it may become a psychological issue
where the women compete against each other to have the attention of the
husband.
There was one incident during one visit at
the health hut, a woman came with her husband because she felt that she was at
risk for abortion. She was bleeding while she was pregnant. From the heated
discussion ensued, the man kept saying she was lying and that she may be on her
menstrual cycle. The man had 3 other wives and many other small children.
I explained to the husband some of the
complications that may arise from bleeding during a pregnancy. Although he was
still angry, he finally took the wife to the hospital for a medical exam. Most of the men in polygamous relationships
can have so many wives and children that they cannot take care of them
financially. As a result, this creates disharmony in the family. There are too
many mouths to feed and too many people to take care of. I felt angry when it happened because women in
villages are at the mercy of their husbands. They are treated as objects and
they have no sense of how to take care of themselves. They are taught to only serve
their husbands. In these polygamous relationships, the men are
usually not motivated to pay for the health visits of their wives and children.
I am starting to feel that polygamous relationships have more disadvantages
than advantages.
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